I believe that we should be wearing masks, even from a socially accepted standard 6-foot social distance. I’d say more about this, but I’m not a health expert or a virus expert or a mask expert.
But I have quite a bit of experience seeing between and beyond binaries, existing between and beyond binaries.
Note: The “you” I’m talking with is not an assumed you, but generally folx who carry certain privileges in a conversation. The you in this post is certainly not disabled folx who often have their well being and participation in community overlooked for the *greater good* and their voices should be sought out on this matter.
My main issue with a mask mandate is that we haven’t even tried to educate the public in any consistent or meaningful ways and I don’t believe a mandate can be effective or safe without public education. And I don’t want to hear that we adequately educated the public from folx with educational privileges, who read and write in English, or don’t have multigenerational reasons to mistrust the government, health care workers, and/or the police. And we haven’t even tried to educate ourselves on why folx are resistant either. We want folx to be instantly onboard with something that they’ve gotten all kinds of misleading information and no clear direction on.
And we want folx who the greater good has never given a damn about to give a damn about the greater good. And we assume everyone has a life they want to survive as much as we want to survive ours, and forget all the other reasons folx lives are made up of the expectation (and sometimes desire) to die daily. We forget that long before we had real worries about survival, whole communities of people, children, have been surviving (and sometimes thriving) by accepting that they won’t survive.
And our approach is to point and yell in their faces about respecting others and to repost disjointed academic reports and info graphics that change nearly daily.
I’m aware that public education takes more time than we have, given that seatbelt laws took a lot of consistent messaging over multiple decades and a generation to become common practice. And there are whole communities still that we’re disconnected from where people don’t wear seatbelts in similar ways to not wearing masks.
The ways we’re disconnected from each other always make us look so ridiculous to each other:
Wear your mask like you wear your seatbelt!
Exactly! I’m not fucking wearing either!
Good talk.
One of the biggest ways we’re miscommunicating around mandatory mask wearing is by assuming that we have a shared understanding of the value of human life and equal chances at access to general survival, before and after COVID-19, and the same fear of death/loss. You expect me to protect your life the way you protect your life and are outraged when I don’t because you take it as an assault. Because you feel entitled to a protected life. You don’t understand that I’m caring for your life in the same way that I’d care for my child’s. You don’t understand the ways you disregard my life regularly. You don’t understand that I have to become apathetic about my life, and yours, in order to take the risks necessary, the risks you won’t take, to provide you with the food and supply deliveries that you’re ordering on the regular. This is like you having pet health insurance and my mom dying before her 44th birthday from poverty while other folx sell their bodies for life saving insulin. No, my cats have not ever been to the vet and no, it’s not because I’m ignorant. And yes, I’m often sick from things you don’t give second thought about preventing or treating and yes, sometimes that’s your fault. Are you aware of the weight of your conveniences measured in human suffering? I mean, how many masks are made in sweatshops?
Refusing to hear someone is the worst route to effective communication.
Given that a virus on this scale was inevitable, we should have been preparing for it. Like we do for tornadoes. And while we didn’t and we need solutions now, mandating something that no one is even trying to adequately explain to the public appeases *us*, but solves nothing. And the regulation of it will carry many inequitable consequences that we may never know about, some of them also deadly.
We need to look past the meme image of Karen refusing to wear a mask and see the whole wide communities of diverse folx actually not wearing masks, if we want to solve anything. Because “Frak Karen” as a public mask mandate enforced by the police we want defunded isn’t going to solve much while it creates even more issues. Most of which *we* won’t have to deal with.
I agree we need to be following extreme measures to keep our communities safe. I mean, fuck masks, we should be staying home.
But it should be a clear and consistent message from national or state government and public health experts and it should come with the funding to make it possible. And instead of putting pressure on a system we’ve given up on to do right by us, we’re taking things in our own hands almost as rashly as folx going out without masks.
I hate to blame our specific flavor of racist capitalism for everything, but if we look at how other countries are being successful right now, and the reasons we’re failing, it’s difficult not to. And that problem needs us to stop redirecting our energy to patch millions of small leaks. And it needs us to be a whole hell of a lot less focused on Karen in the MAGA hat and so much more compassionate than we’re willing to be. You cannot treat the Coronavirus with *flesh-colored* bandaids.
I know, I know: “But Nik, people are going to die in the meantime.”
My sweet loves, if you’ve been paying attention, you’d understand deeply that people have been dying in large numbers since the very birth of this country, without reprieve.
And it comes full circle. The reason folx refuse to wear masks is the same reason we’re desperate for them to:
Because we can’t absorb so much devastating truth all at once.